HELP! I HATE MY JOB
A common issue that clients raise with me is seemingly irreconcilable differences with their job. Frequently the job is one that would widely be seen as a desirable role, where there would be no shortage of eager candidates if a vacancy arose. Often the client had been delighted to get the job at the outset. Yet the client has reached a stage where they hate going to work. Sometimes I speak to people who have followed the urge to resign, only to find themselves in an even less enjoyable position.
Traditional coaching, having established that the difficulty had lasted for some time, might go on to support the client in the goal of finding a new, better job.
So what does an Innate Health approach look like? It is likely that the focus initially would not be on the external circumstance of the job. Instead we would look together at how the client is innocently and unconsciously creating their own reality, through the medium of Thought. Many, even most, people are oblivious of the extent to which they create their experience of life through their own Thought – conscious and unconscious – about the circumstances around them. People feel victimised by circumstances and by other people. When someone hates their job, commonly that hatred is generated within. If they can get to a state of neutrality about their position, better decisions become inevitable.
Innate Health points to the possibility of far more freedom and to the fact that it is often our own Thought which victimises us.
Long before I discovered the 3 Principles I took up a job that I was not in love with, out of necessity. I had a lot of Thinking about that job: I felt trapped, the work was futile and frustrating, I was in the firing line for endless criticism etc. When I started I met a man doing the identical job. He was one of the happiest men I have ever known. He was completely fulfilled at work. The difference between our experiences struck me. I couldn’t quite fathom it until much later when I gained some 3P awareness. My colleague had very little thinking about the role. I had lots of ‘thinking’, much of it operating below the surface. Judgements, fears and anxieties, disappointments, criticism and comparisons. This kind of thinking is almost always disguised as caused and justified by external circumstances.
It is a completely different view of cause and effect to realise that the only thing which my experience is telling me about is the quality of my thinking. As people, including me, see this more deeply they often experience invisible thinking and the sense of victimisation falling away [at least at times]. That gives a clarity about the circumstances which enables wiser decisions to be made.
When the mind is clear, not contaminated by troubling thoughts, the right path becomes obvious. A client may still choose to change jobs, but can do so without unconsciously dragging their bag of complaints with them. Sometimes they choose to stay, and can even fall in love with the job.
If you are struggling at work and would like some clarity, please do get in touch for a complimentary discovery session.